I never completely learned in that moment how important it was for these words to ring true. "Always stay humble and kind." I have these words written on my fridge in the kitchen of my home. The last two months have been the best two months in the last 5 years in our house and I can't even tell any more of the truth than this. The love felt in our house has been amazing. Our kids are getting along, we are more in love than we have been since we were dating, it's like our lives completely started over. We are happy. How did we do it? We sat down and really looked at how we wanted to be happy. What made us happy? Money? Cars? Fancy TV's or material things? No. Love, family and friends made us happy.
We realized that a big fancy job didn't need to be had to make us happy. We needed to strap down, budget better and DO what made us happy. Work was making me miserable. I loved what I did, I loved the people I worked with, I just needed to be here. I needed to not defend my job. I wanted to do what I was doing, but on my terms with my creative ideas with my freedom. The creative side of me needs to have freedom and when she's locked up, she gets angry! I had to be able to be free, but all along I worked hard. Through that, these words rang true..."Don't expect a free ride from no one, don't hold a grudge or a chip and here's why: Bitterness keeps you from flyin'. Always stay humble and kind."
First of all, I thank my partner and best friend K.C. He sees in me the passion and drive. He has faith that I can do what I set to do. When he offered to let me partner in IC Promo, I couldn't believe what he was actually saying. Was I scared? Absolutely. Am I bringing in a paycheck? Not yet... but I will, and in the meantime, I have other options. I have never had a friend who trusted me the way he does, and when we went on our booking trip to Deadwood last weekend, my friendships shone through. I was able to bring that in to start helping my business and bring business to my friends. For that I am thankful. Music is my life and I am so happy to be able to bring that into my career.
Teach your kids kindness. Teach them to be happy, friendly and above all to have manners. You want your son or daughter to be the one that their teacher stops you at the store and tells you they are the most respectful one in class. Remember your roots. Manners go a long way, kindness goes a long way. I don't know if it's because of how I was raised or just because of us really taking the time to sit down as a family and talk about how we all feel. We don't want to fight, we don't want stress, we don't want to hate each other. We never did, so why did it change. We have always been a family who will help others, a family who will fight to the death for our friends and family members. We are who we are. If I can help you, I will and it will always be that way.
Show your kindness, be humble and you will see what changes. Take a piece of paper, write it on a post it note, or just on a dry erase board. The kids see it, I promise they will think about it. Love emulates, pay it forward in any way you can. Money isn't everything... don't make it that way. "Don't take for granted the love this life gives you. When you get where you're going don't forget, turn back around and help the next one in line. Always stay humble and kind."
